Recently, I went on a solo vacation to Hawaii. It was a trip I had eagerly anticipated, as I hadn’t traveled much in 2024. This vacation was different—it fell over the Christmas holidays, a time I usually spend with family. My plans included surfing, dining at some great restaurants, enjoying a sunset catamaran cruise, and indulging a little. I thought sunshine, palm trees, and ocean swimming would be the perfect way to end 2024, with my family’s full support and understanding.

Within five hours of arriving on Oahu, my wallet was stolen, taking all my cash, credit cards, and ATM card. (Thankfully, the theft was caught on CCTV, and the hotel’s security team was incredibly helpful.) When I realized my wallet was gone, I had a moment of panic. Back in my room, as I called my credit card providers to cancel my cards and figure out my next steps, I discovered a credit card tucked into my phone case. (Note to my daughter—my phone case does come in handy, despite her teasing!) I felt a wave of relief.

However, this card had a very low limit and was only used for subscriptions and my cell and internet bills. These bills had just been paid, leaving me with only $400 CAD of available credit. I quickly made a payment to increase my limit, but it would take 2–3 business days to process. In the meantime, I withdrew $300 USD as a cash advance, did the math, and realized I would need to stick to a $20–$40 USD daily budget until the payment cleared. Unsure if the funds would be available by Friday or Monday, I decided to play it safe.

Friends, family, and even the banks offered to send me cash or courier a replacement card, but I declined. I was determined to manage on my own and figure things out.

Sometimes, things don’t go as planned. I had to reset my expectations for this vacation. What started as a setback turned into a challenge: Could I enjoy Hawaii on such a tight budget?

Don’t get me wrong—I had a few hours of frustration, feeling sorry for myself, and grappling with the loneliness of being without a safety net. As someone who prides herself on self-reliance and independence, this was tough. But after canceling my cards, withdrawing cash, and accepting the situation, I splurged on a burger and beer to reset my mindset. That’s when I began to feel a sense of gratitude.

I was in Hawaii. My VRBO was paid for. My family and friends were there if I needed them. And I had enough cash to get by. I realized it would be okay.

Appreciation isn’t just about recognizing what’s good—it’s also about learning from life’s challenges. By embracing both the highs and lows, we cultivate a deeper understanding of our experiences.

Life is a tapestry of joyful moments and challenging times. When faced with adversity, it’s not always easy to find reasons to be grateful. But by shifting my perspective, I saw the silver linings. Instead of dwelling on the negatives, I chose to acknowledge the support I had, the lessons I was learning, and the opportunity for personal growth.

During my trip, I read a book I had been gifted, War and Wine by Don and Petie Kladstrup. One chapter recounts how French POWs were given a rare treat—a thimble of wine. This small gesture became a profound symbol of hope and camaraderie amidst the bleakness of captivity. Sharing the wine allowed the prisoners to momentarily escape their harsh reality and reconnect with the joys of life they once knew.

As they savoured the wine, stories and laughter filled the air, igniting memories of better times and fostering unity. That chapter illustrates how even the smallest pleasures can uplift spirits and strengthen bonds in the face of adversity.

Of course, my Hawaiian experience cannot compare to the horrors of war or being a POW. But reading this chapter made me reflect on resilience, gratitude, and the incredible power of perspective. Being thankful for one’s strength and ability to navigate tough situations can lead to unexpected, often more meaningful, experiences. It’s okay to feel frustrated or sad while also appreciating your efforts—this balance fosters a healthier mindset.

Added Appreciation

The payment went through on Monday, and I treated myself to a steak and Mai Tais at Duke’s—a Waikiki staple that holds fond memories from my last visit to Oahu.

I also had the chance to catch up with my uncle, aunt, and cousins, whom I hadn’t seen in a very long time. I’m incredibly grateful for their hospitality and generosity. Thank you, Scott, Cyndia, Wilson, and Laughlin (sorry we missed each other, Alec)!

All in all, this turned out to be one of the best vacations I’ve ever had.

How do you navigate challenging events?

What’s your mindset when unexpected things happen?

How do you approach disappointing situations?

🎵 Songs of the Week 🎵

KIKI DEE - I'VE GOT THE MUSIC IN ME (LIVE - 1975)

An oldie (and one I’ve shared on my blog before because I love this song). It’s a track I often listen to—and dance to—while brewing my morning coffee. It felt fitting for this blog and was also a song I enjoyed during my time in Hawaii.

Carole King - Way Over Yonder

I See Fire/Burn (Acoustic Mashup)

The Red Clay Strays - I'm Still Fine (Live At The Ryman)

💿 Being’s Blog Playlist 💿